God’s Cocoon and Life’s Greatest Lesson
Happy New Year everyone. May God richly bless you in 2026.
The older I get the more friends I see pass into eternity. I also pray for more people with life-threatening conditions. You may be aware that well-known political pundit Victor Davis Hanson had major surgery this past weekend. We are asking God to give him more years of “imparting wisdom.”
I, too, am facing a new physical challenge (related to my autoimmune system). These physical “tests” in the last chapters of earthly life remind me of “Life’s Greatest Lesson.”
Here’s what I mean.
God’s Cocoon and Life’s Greatest Lesson
Some years ago, my wife and I participated in a small group meeting where the question was asked, “What season of life are you in?” (They meant “fall” = things are going downhill, “winter” = life is hard, “spring” = things are improving, and “summer” = life is great!).
When my turn came to answer, I said to the group, “I don’t really accept the premise of the question. Life doesn’t revolve around our feelings. The truth of the Good News places me in eternal summer because years ago I discovered the secret of happiness.”
I wasn’t trying to be a troublemaker, just honest about a very important idea.
The normal way most theologians describe this biblical lesson doesn’t carry the same positive ring. In fact, a famous saint called it “The Dark Night of the Soul” (St. John of the Cross). But its primary name is “Death to Self,” and all experienced it in biblical times and continue to do so in the modern world—for their good.
The second largest best-selling book of the past forty years (after the Bible) is Rick Warren’s The Purpose-Driven Life. It begins with this profound little sentence:
“It’s not about you.”
I agree. The greatest lesson in life and the secret of a happy life is death to self. It’s our necessary response to receive Christ’s salvation. Dying to ourselves–repenting and believing– involves:
- Laying down all self-effort and turning away from sin.
- Coming alive to love and serve God.
- A change of center in your thoughts and motivations.
- Giving up your own personal happiness as your goal in life and living to make God happy.
Finding personal happiness through self-effort is like chasing a shadow. You can never quite grab it. True happiness comes when we give it up as an end in life and live for the glory of God.
When we make that choice (and renew it each day), a deep settled joy (happiness) permeates our being. It’s how we were made to live. We don’t find it by striving.
We find it by dying.
Death to self is the repentant and faith-filled action that reconciles a person to God. In humility, you say to your Creator and Savior, “I was wrong. Forgive me. I will live for you, not me.”
You die to your self-centered pride.
We also face the death to self “choice” in various practical areas of life including personal dreams, marriage, children and grandchildren, vocation, church, friendships, finances, and health. God uses these challenges to get us to die to self-effort and control and yield ourselves to Him alone.
I’m writing today on this topic out of present experience. For the past two months I’ve had widespread bodily inflammation that has not responded to medication. A test in November revealed a problem with my autoimmune system which fights disease and inflammation (God’s “health services department” in your body).
I’m seeking answers, but mainly I’m dying to plans and desires each day and learning once again to rely upon God. That involves dealing with pain, prayer, submission to His will, and waiting–while living by simple faith.
A while back God spoke to me during my daily devotions out of Psalm 43: 5: (The Message):
“Why are you down in the dumps dear soul? Why are you crying the blues? Fix my eyes on God—soon I’ll be praising again. He puts a smile on my face. He’s my God.”
William Booth, the founder of the Salvation Army, was told later in his life that he was going blind. Instead of despairing or worrying, he reportedly exclaimed:
“I’ve served God with my eyes. Now I’m going to serve Him without my eyes!”
Notice the focus. It was not about him. It was all about living for the glory and happiness of God.
All of us will experience the ultimate form of life’s greatest lesson at the time of physical death. Many experience weakness, loss of function, pain, and many other difficulties as they endure the process of leaving this body and facing God in the spirit.
I’ve had a couple of good friends who passed away recently who didn’t fear death itself but did have some anxiety over the process of dying before their graduation to eternal life.
During the physical death process, no one wants to go through difficulty and suffering. But God uses it to help us get right with him, die to self effort and control, and submit to his will–just as Jesus faced physical torture and death:
“Not my will but yours be done (Luke 22:42)”
That’s the best application of life’s greatest lesson.
It’s not about me. “When I’m weak, then I’m strong” (2 Corinthians 12:10) because God becomes bigger in my life (consciously giving him his rightful place).
Whether you’re suffering or not, die to yourself today. Bask in God’s eternal salvation and simply ask for his daily marching orders. Then do them with all your heart. Joy and blessedness will meet you coming and going as you live by faith in Him.
The following quotes are my favorites on the wisdom and necessity of death to self.
“The Cross is not the terrible end to an otherwise God-fearing and happy life. The Cross meets us at the beginning of our communion with Christ. When Christ calls a person, he bids him to come and die.”–Dietrich Bonhoeffer
“The man who has died to self has no ambitions, so he has nothing to be jealous about. He has no reputation, so he has nothing to fight about. He has no possessions, so he has nothing to worry about. He has no rights, so he can’t suffer any wrongs. He is already dead–so no one can kill him.” –Leonard Ravenhill
“Very truly I tell you, unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But if it dies, it produces many seeds. Anyone who loves their life will lose it, while anyone who hates their life in this world will keep it for eternal life.” — Jesus in John 12:34,35.
Is God Building Your Cocoon?
I’ve often described physical death as God building a cocoon around us that gets tighter and more restraining each day. We get weaker and more helpless. The strands begin to restrict many aspects of life until we can’t do anything physically but yield our lives and future to God.
The beautiful aspect of this analogy is when a caterpillar is completely stuck in the confining cocoon (photo above), an amazing metamorphosis takes place and it emerges as a BUTTERFLY.
The “death to self” of the caterpillar is the means of its transformation. The same is true for us. We must go through it spiritually to be glorified forever.
If you’re experiencing God’s cocoon, don’t resist it. Embrace with joy (James 1:2-4).
It’s your true launching pad into eternal bliss with God and his people.
Next Week: My View of the World 2026

Your reference to dying to self, living for God’s glory and giving up the pursuit of personal happiness is the exact opposite of what I’ve come to realize in recent years. Denying your humanity and despising your own desires is such a toxic poison. Only since embracing my humanity, my heartfelt desires, keeping an open mind with true humility and learning to trust my own thoughts and heart have I gained real freedom and clarity of life and purpose.
I lived the’biblical’ way for decades, dedicated, committed and a sold out radical For Jesus but I finally had the courage to be honest with myself and seek honest answers. I didnt expect to receive the answers I did but wow, true freedom and light at last!!
Thanks for taking the time to write. I’m saddened to hear of your turning away from Jesus (making Him the Lord of your life), but I understand. Today’s world is filled with secular thinking that puts self first and calls it happiness and freedom.
Of course, people can have fun and various thrills in almost anything (even evil things). The BIble calls it the “fleeting pleasures of sin.”
But real joy and true liberty are found only in reconciliation to God through Jesus. That happens when we turn away from selfish living and give Him his rightful place in our lives as our Creator and Savior.
It’s not about you. It never was. You’re not God and don’t run the universe morally or physically.
We were designed to live to the glory of God. When you die to yourself and live for Him, you become deeply blessed in this life and inherit eternal life.
I pray you will turn back and be his son or daughter forever. I will be praying for you. 🙏
Ron
P.S. You call yourself “a former disciple.” Who I am to you is not important (though I’m grateful to have taught you). Forget me and you lose nothing. But forget Jesus and you lose everything. May God speak deeply to your heart.
Thanks for sharing this wonderful truth, Ron. I’m often encouraged and challenged by your incredible blog posts. Thanks for sharing truth that you’ve lived out as a way of life. THAT brings ‘truth-revelation’ in a way that the Lord continues to bless. We’re grateful for your life that is so well-lived.
Back at ya, Wick. I’ve always considered you a “Barnabas” with the gifts of encouragement (among many others.) Thanks for sharing that gift in my life and always being a great example of a compassionate leader.
May God continue to bless you and Jan and your vital work with Streams of Mercy.
You’ll always be one of my heroes!
Ron
Thanks, Ron for this powerful message. As I continue to age, I too am having increasing physical issues. I need a helpful reminder to die to self and live (in peace and joy) to/in the Lord.
I had forgotten the Leonard Ravenhill quote you used above. It has been strengthening to me and others over the years.
May we surrender all to Jesus in 2026.
CHRIST IS ALL,
Steve Hall
Thank so much for sharing brother. It’s a great reminder as I begin 2026! Jacki and I will keep you in our prayers.
God bless you, Shirley and the family.
Thanks so much for sharing this Ron. My prayers continue for you Brother.
Many years ago the Holy Spirit pointed me to what I have claimed as my “Life Scripture” — Romans 14:7-8 NIV
“For none of us lives to himself alone and none of us dies to himself alone. If we live, we live to the Lord; and if we die, we die to the Lord. So, whether we live or die, we belong to the Lord.”
This is my daily reality, security, identity, and eternal delight — Pete
I love that scripture as well, Pete. Thanks for sharing it.
I’m almost done reading “Design, Destiny, Delight!” Very good job on it. It’s loaded with encouragement for every generation to know who they are, what they should do, and where love can be found. Keep obeying the Lord with the books he has given you.
I want to share one writing tip with you that I give to my students each quarter. It’s one of the most common mistakes in their papers.
Here it is:
When you use quotes, always put the period or comma INSIDE the quote, not after it. Example: Wrong: “Jesus wept”. Correct: “Jesus wept.” Same with commas. Wrong: Though “I am weak”, I truly am strong. Correct: “Though “I am weak,” I truly am strong.
Sorry for being a little professorial. I just noticed that error here and there in “DDD.” (Another correct use.)
May God richly bless you and Viv and your family in 2026.
Ron
God Bless, Celebrate And Love You And Yours; Dear Friend. As Always, Thank You For Sharing.
Jan